Surrogacy in Canada

Jack’s sister, Jannika, and her husband Bill always wanted to have a child. They have now been trying for more than 5 years, but nothing seems to be working. A good friend of theirs, Rachel, who already has 3 children, has offered to carry their child. Jannika and Bill are really excited at the idea of having a close friend carrying their baby. The plan is for Jannika and Bill to provide their gametes (sperm and egg) and for Rachel to act solely as a carrier. Rachel will be carrying the baby without compensation. They are thinking of going through an agency to carry on with the project.

There are two types of surrogacy: commercial and altruistic. In Canada, “commercial surrogacy”, which sees surrogate mothers receive money for carrying a couple’s child, is illegal. Likewise, it is also illegal for would-be parents seeking a surrogate to advertise that they are willing to pay a woman for the service. However, it is legal to reimburse a surrogate for the expenses she incurs as a result of the pregnancy. This is what is called “altruistic surrogacy.

The expenses that an altruistic surrogate mother may incur and can obtain reimbursement for, include:

•  Medication
• Maternity clothes
• Travel costs
•  Pre-natal supplements and vitamins
•  Loss of work if bed rest becomes necessary

Though it is illegal to compensate a surrogate mother for carrying a child, surrogacy is still a very expensive process. According to the surrogacy support website Surrogacy in Canada, the typical cost for a gestational surrogacy varies between $32,000 and $76,000. These costs take into consideration the in-vitro fertilization, the expenses before and during pregnancy as well as the legal expenses. Since not many young couples have that kind of money, it is more and more common for them to enter into “underground” surrogate arrangements, thus avoiding the need to go through an agency and allowing them to use other methods of fertilization. A child is always a wonderful gift of life, but you may end up with a different deal than what you bargained for, during the pregnancy and after the baby is born.  Surrogacy is a complex process so before you have recourse to it, you should absolutely seek legal advice to fully understand  the rights and obligations that result for all parties involved. 

Why does my ex need to see my income tax return?

Jack has been paying child and spousal support to Jill for over a year now, pursuant to a temporary agreement reached between them in mediation based on what they anticipated to earn in 2013.  Jack recently completed his 2013 income tax return, which confirms that his actual income for that year was higher than he had anticipated.  He wonders whether he has an obligation to tell Jill about his higher income.  The last thing he wants is for her to find out that he is making more money and, as a result, that he needs to increase the monthly support payments he is making!  

 

Normally, final separation agreements (or court orders) which contain child support obligations will provide that parties have to exchange their income information each year.  This is because the law (Child Support Guidelines) specifically says that child support may be varied each year to reflect any changes in the parents’ income.  The change does not have to be important: as a payor’s income fluctuates, so does his or her child support obligation. Thus, the importance for parents to exchange income information each year.

This is not necessarily the case for spousal support.  Usually, an ex-spouse’s obligation to pay spousal support is based on the income that the parties earned at the time of their separation.  To subsequently vary a spousal support agreement or court order, the person requesting the change  must show that there has been a “material change in either party’s circumstances” since the making of the agreement or court order.  A significant change in one’s income may (and I say “may”) justify a change in spousal support. Other circumstances justifying a variation of spousal support could include a payor’s retirement; the support recipient moving in with a new spouse; the termination of a child support obligation; a change in employment for either party; or any other such change affecting either parties’ financial situation.  Since there is no inherent right to vary spousal support each year, there is normally no positive obligation imposed on the ex-spouses to exchange their income information yearly.  However, the ex-spouses have an obligation to disclose any “material change in one’s circumstances” when it arises. As always, if the parties cannot agree on the new support amount, they will need to seek the variance through a court order.  

Stop focusing only on the negative

Jack and Jill have been separated for more than two years now.  However, Jill cannot stop talking negatively about Jack.  She cannot forget the names calling or the fact that he “lied” about his annual income to avoid paying child and spousal support.   When she feels tired, overworked, and stressed out by all conflicting demands on her time, Jill’s negative thoughts creep into her mind and play out like a movie. As a result, Jill is often depressed, she lacks energy and many of her girlfriends do not call her as much anymore.  Like many separated people, she has fallen prey to negative thinking… 

During and after a separation, people live periods of loss and grievance.  For many, separation is a failure.  Focusing only on the negative aspects of the relationship often helps a person justify to themselves and their entourage the reasons for the breakup. However, no one is served by holding onto negative thoughts indefinitely.  Getting counseling or divorce coaching is often necessary to move forward. 

 

Often those who think negatively do so out of habit.   It is a lot easier to dwell and complain about the 5% that is going “wrong” (i.e. the car that cut you off this morning) instead of focusing on the 95% that is going well (i.e. your health, job, children etc.). Studies have demonstrated that positive thinking can be extremely beneficial for improving self-confidence and psychological well-being, as well as boosting physical health.  Here are a few tips to help you maintain or develop a positive attitude:

1.      Meditate or do yoga - learn how to breathe and ease your mind;

2.      Smile – it will change your mood and relieve stress;

3.      Surround yourself with positive people –  a good friend can help you put things into perspective;

4.      Don’t play the victim even if your living situation is unbearable - there is always a way out; and

5.      Remember that no one is perfect – stop dwelling on the “what if”, learn from this life experience and move forward.

Could a parenting coordinator help us?

Jack and Jill have been able to reach an interim agreement about parenting issues and the care of their two children.  Unfortunately, this has not stopped them from fighting about the kids. From Jack’s perspective, Jill is completely inflexible in her thinking and she refuses to follow the agreement with regards to access, consent to travel with the children, payment of the children’s expenses and so on.  Jack wonders what is the point of having an agreement if he needs to run to his lawyer and take legal action every time Jill does not follow the rules.

In high-conflict separations or divorces, parenting issues may arise frequently even if the parents have signed a comprehensive parenting agreement. Going to court every time a dispute arises is both untimely and expensive.  However, “Parenting Coordination” could be your best option to manage those day-to-day disputes in a timely and cost-effective manner.

How does parenting coordination work?  A Parenting Coordinator is a neutral person to whom parents can turn to when they cannot agree on matters relating to their children. The Parenting Coordinator is usually a psychotherapist, social worker, family lawyer, counsellor or mediator who has a significant expertise in parenting and divorce conflict management and who has obtained a Parenting Coordination certification. The Parenting Coordinator is hired by the parents (by contract) or appointed by the family court (on consent of the parents).  His/her role is to help parents come to a successful resolution of ongoing disputes as they arise between themselves. If the parents are unable to resolve the dispute, the Parenting Coordinator is empowered to impose a decision on them. In other words, the decision of the Parenting Coordinator must be followed by the parents, as if ordered by a Court.

While the cost of the Parenting Coordinator is assumed by the parents equally (or as otherwise ordered by the Parenting Coordinator when required to impose a decision on the parties), that cost is, without a doubt, cheaper than the cost of two lawyers and months of court proceedings to resolve the dispute!  Most importantly, the matter will be resolved very quickly (sometimes in a matter of days) as opposed to taking several months through the court process.  Keep in mind that, according to a wide body of research, while separation and divorce may be a hard transition for children, in the end, it is parental conflict that is the most harmful to children.

Love is sometimes blind… Marriage and immigration

Jack’s brother, Romeo, called him last night in a crisis.  His new wife Julia, whom he met in Cuba two years ago and whom he married the week after she arrived in Canada two months ago, stormed out of their home last night wanting a separation.  Romeo explained that their marriage was rocky from day one.  It would appear that, after the marriage, Julia became a completely different person than the sweet, kind and amusing woman he had dated long distance for the past two years.  Romeo believed that, with time, they would be able to work things out.  However, he has since found out that Julia never loved him and manipulated him into marriage solely to immigrate to Canada. Having sponsored Julia to become a Canadian resident, Romeo now faces years of financial responsibility towards her even after a divorce.

Romeo’s story is unfortunately similar to that of many other Canadians, and the options available in those situations (until recently) were non-existent.  At the moment, when someone sponsors a non-Canadian to become a Canadian resident, that person must give financial support to their immigrating spouse for three years, even if the marriage or relationship fails. If the immigrating spouse uses social assistance to meet his or her basic needs, the Canadian spouse will have to repay the money to the government, as sponsorship is a legal contract with the Government of Canada. You must meet its terms. It does not matter whether or not a judge would deny the immigrating spouse financial assistance pursuant to Canadian family law principles or whether the parties had signed a marriage contract confirming that no spousal support would be payable in case of separation or divorce.  If the immigrating spouse requires financial assistance to meet his or her needs, the Canadian spouse is 100% responsible, not Canadian taxpayers. Until very recently, there was nothing a “manipulated” spouse could do in this unfortunate situation.

However, in October 2012, the Canadian immigration laws have changed.  In an ongoing effort to deter people from using marriages of convenience to enter into Canada, the Canadian immigration authorities introduced a new regulation that requires certain sponsored spouses to live in a legitimate relationship with their sponsor for at least two years from the day on which they receive their permanent resident status in Canada.  If the sponsored spouse leaves prior to the two year requirement, its status may be revoked.  Canadian authorities can also lay criminal charges against the sponsored spouse.

Based on this new regulation, Romeo will not have to prove that Julia manipulated and married him for the sole purpose of immigrating to Canada, given that she left prior to the two year requirement.  Her status as a permanent resident will be revoked and Romeo’s obligation to financially support her will end since she will have to return to Cuba.  If you are a Canadian citizen or permanent resident and have met someone from another country on the Internet or while travelling, think carefully before marrying them and sponsoring them to come to Canada. Otherwise, blind love could completely turn your world around…

Should you try to make Christmas perfect?

Last year was the first Christmas after the separation.  Although the holidays went fairly well given the circumstances, Jill is feeling the pressure of making Christmas perfect.  The children are asking for an IPOD, and IPAD, and IPHONE, an XBOX just to name a few big ticket items on their wish list. Jill earns a lot less money than Jack and cannot afford the luxurious gifts he buys the children.   She also feels guilty that she will not spend Christmas morning with the kids and thinking of the loneliness is just overwhelming.   She knows that she has to stick to the budget and that money does not buy love. However, when it comes to the children Jill usually overspends.  

 

In preparation for Christmas Jill made a list of 5 goals she will try to respect during this holiday season:

 

1.  Make a list of gifts. Set a budget and stick to it.  Shop early – avoid last minute temptations and overspending. 

 

2.  Talk to the children and Jack about Christmas and New Year arrangements well in advance – good planning and realistic expectations can prevent frustrations and disappointment.

 

3.  Remain flexible during the holidays - avoid disagreements, dramatic people and uncomfortable conversations after all “it’s the season to be jolly”.

 

4.  Enjoy myself – spend quality time laughing with family and friends, the support of loved ones can provide strength to move past a difficult situation.

 

5.  Remain positive – Choosing to learn from this hurtful life experience can help you grow into a stronger, wiser person.

 

I work for my-self and don’t earn much income!

Jack is self-employed as a human resource consultant for various companies and organizations in the Ottawa area, a business he started to operate when he was laid off from his long-time position with the federal government. As a self-employed business owner, Jack is able to enjoy freedom and many tax benefits that are not available to “regular” employees.  However,  being self-employed also means that he must bear the risks associated with the ups and downs of market demands and fluctuating annual income that “regular” employees do not have to assume. That is what he responded to Jill when her lawyer had the nerves to suggest that his income was actually higher than the amount he declared in his annual income tax return.

Jill’s lawyer had no intention to insult Jack, or to insinuate that he was defrauding Canada Revenue Agency.   For the purpose of determining the annual income required to calculate both child and spousal support, the court is not limited to the revenue declared by  a tax payor in his or her income tax return.   In fact, the tax and other financial benefits flowing from being self-employed, being the sole owner of your own company or living in a country with much lower tax rates (to name only a few) can and will be taken into consideration and will often result in the court attributing a higher income than what is reported on line 150 of the income tax return.  This is because the child and spousal support guidelines (those tables, charts and software that determine how much support is payable) are based on income earned by “regular” employees who are subject to source deductions and less flexible taxation rules, and who must pay for personal expenses with after-tax money.  This is not the case for self-employed people who usually also  enjoy the following (non-exhaustive) benefits;

• paying for personal expenses (such as car expenses, cell phones, meals and entertainment, travel, etc.) through their businesses, thus allowing them to pay with “before-tax money”;
• leaving important sums of money in their company, for reinvestment or future use; 
• investing through their company with “before-tax money”; and
• receiving income as dividends, which brings about a lower taxation rate.

As a result, when assessing a self-employed payor’s income judges and lawyers must look beyond the income tax return to avoid comparing  apples (“regular” employee payors’ income) with oranges (self-employed payors’ income). 

The children are finally 18, can I stop paying child support?

Jack’s brother, Sam, has twin daughters (Melany and Stephany) who will soon be 18 years old and who continue to live primarily with their mother since the separation. The adult girls have just graduated from high school.     Melany has been working in retail since she is 16 years old and in light of the career opportunities offered by her company she has decided for the time being to work full time in that industry and not pursue her post-secondary studies.    As for Stephany, she aspires to become a doctor and has been accepted to university.  Following the completion of her bachelor degree in sciences, she hopes to enter medical school to pursue her dream.    For the next three years, both girls intend to continue living with their mother   Sam wonders whether he still has an obligation to pay child support after the girls turn 18.

Child support does not necessarily end when a child turns 18.  Normally, child support will continue to be paid for an adult child if he/she enrolls into  a post-secondary study program or if the child is unable to support himself/herself as a result of a disability or illness.  When a child pursues a college or university education the child support obligation will usually end when the child receives his/her first post-secondary degree, although there are exceptions.

To the extent that the obligation to continue to pay child support exists, the monthly amount of support must be determined. This is where things get a bit more complicated.  Normally, if a child lives at home with one parent while pursuing his/her studies, the basic child support amount that was payable prior to the child turning 18 will likely continue to be payable after that date (this amount is set by the Federal Child Support Guidelines, based on the payor’s income). This makes sense since the “custodial” parent will have to continue to maintain a home for the child and to assume his/her day-to-day expenses (i.e., transportation, food, clothing).    However, if the child movesaway from home to attend school (normally 8 months out of 12), then the way child support is calculated would be different as we would have to take into consideration the child’s needs outside of the parent’s home, the reduced costs to the recipient parent when the child is living away from home and the child’s own ability to contribute to his or her living and school expenses.

In addition to paying the basic child support amount, the paying parent (such as Sam) would also have an obligation to contribute his/her share of the child’s extraordinary expenses.  These would include a portion of the child’s tuition fees, books and other school expenses, to the extent that the child is unable to cover all of those expenses with student loans, grants or their own income.

 

Although it may appear that child support obligations will never end, just remember that you are a parent for life.  In the end, giving your child a chance at living a successful and financially independent life (hopefully sooner rather than later…) is what you are here for in the first place, isn’t it?

I want my divorce! What is the difference between separation and divorce?

Jack has had it.  If there was ever any possibility that they would reconcile, any such hopes have come to an end when he heard that Jill had retained the services of a lawyer. Jack has told Jill that he wanted a divorce, to which Jill has replied that he would get it “when he faced up with his responsibilities as a father and a husband!”.  Jack wonders if he needs Jill's consent to get a divorce.

 

When two spouses part ways, it is very common to hear them say that they “want a divorce”.  However, in a separation process the divorce itself is really just a legal formality that will put an official end to the marriage. Getting to the point where you can get a divorce is what takes so long and can be very difficult because in most cases you will want to settle all issues by way of a separation agreement.  Getting such an agreement through mediation, collaborative justice, lawyer-to-lawyer negotiation or a court process is your first step. When an agreement is signed, you then know what your rights and obligations towards your ex and your children will be in the future.  When all issues have been settled, getting the divorce is truly just a "paper process" which, while it still requires court intervention (the divorce can only be granted by court order), will not require the spouses to attend court and will not involve months of legal debates.  If you have been separated for one year and all issues have been settled in a separation agreement, you are entitled to obtain a divorce order with or without your ex’ consent.

 

This said, there is really no difference between being separated (once a final agreement has been signed by both parties) and being divorced, except for some of the following differences:

1. If you are divorced, you can get remarried (something you cannot do if you are not divorced).

 

2. If you are divorced, you may no longer qualify as a beneficiary under your ex-spouse’s health plan or pension plan (although certain health plans allows it in certain circumstances).  Some pension plans also require that you obtain a divorce order to prevent your ex to obtain, upon your death, your pension plan benefits.

 

It is common to see couples that never get a divorce and only have a separation agreement.  There is no difference in the eyes of the Canada Revenue Agency between a separated or divorced individual.  Often times, people are emotionally exhausted and simply do not want to engage any further legal costs getting a divorce until someone decides to get remarried.  For many people, however, getting a divorce is necessary to cut the emotional ties to their ex and many people get their divorce immediately after having signed their separation agreement. So ultimately, getting a divorce is, more often than not, simply a question of personal choice.

If I have to see you in court honey, you’ll have to pay my legal fees!

Jack and Jill have been trying to settle their separation issues by themselves for a couple of months now. Jill is getting frustrated with Jack because he does not seem to take their separation seriously.   She does not see any other options than to retain a lawyer and go to court.  She is convinced that once they go to court the judge will tell Jack what he needs to hear.  But when Jill finally met with her lawyer, she was a bit surprised by (and disappointed with) her lawyer’s comments and reluctance to engage into a court action.  She wonders if she hired the right lawyer…  In fact, Jill’s lawyer has explained to her that the court process is not only very time and emotionally consuming, it will also be very costly.  However, Jill is convinced that she will win hands down on all issues and that, in the end,  Jack will be responsible to pay for all her legal fees.

 

Many separated couples believe that going to court is the only way they can get someone to pay attention to what they are saying. They believe that they are right, the other spouse is wrong and that the court room will be the venue where the winner will take it all.   But legal fees to get there are a very important aspect to consider when making the decision to resort to the judicial system.  While a court may order the “losing” spouse to pay part of the other spouse’s legal costs to prepare and attend court, it is highly unlikely that the judge will order that ALL costs incurred be paid back to the “winning” party.   In addition, considering that most cases eventually settle out of court (less than 3% of all family court cases end in a trial, where costs orders are made), opportunities to get the big fat cost order are very rare.

 

In addition, it is not because a party wins in court the he/she will necessarily get his/her legal costs paid by the loosing party. In deciding whether a party should be responsible to pay for the other’s court costs, the judge will look at different factors such as: Were the parties reasonable?  Did the spouses make reasonable efforts to settle the case?  Did one of the parties fail to accept a reasonable offer? Did one spouse act in bad faith? Did one spouse pursue unrealistic claims? and the list goes on and on…

 

So no one should ever go to court thinking that they will win it all, or thinking that the other party will have to pay their legal fees.  When making the decision to go to court, you need to start from the premise that any and all legal fees paid to your lawyer will be on you, and that you will be lucky if at the end of the day a judge orders your ex to pay some of them.  This is why it is so important to make sure that you have tried every possible way to settle out of court before you chose this very lengthy and costly avenue.

I want my share in your business!

 

Jill’s sister has been living in a common-law relationship with her boyfriend for 11 years.  They have two children together, they own a home jointly and they have invested in a rental property through a company belonging to her boyfriend.  In all aspects (except for the very expensive wedding), they are like a married couple.  As of late, things have been rocky in their relationship and her sister has sought Jill’s guidance with regard to their rental property. She thought that since Jill is going through a separation herself, she would know the answer to her questions. However, Jill herself was married and she wonders if the same rules would apply to common law spouses.

 

The answer is NO. When it comes to property rights, things are very different for common law spouses than for married spouses. If you are married, Ontario laws very specifically set out how your family property is to be shared.  The rules are clear and will be strictly followed by lawyers and judges (unless you and your spouse agree to share your property differently).  However, this property division scheme does not apply to common law couples in Ontario.

 

It does not mean that non-married spouses have no legal remedies when it comes to property. To rectify what courts often saw as a terrible injustice, Canadian courts have created some legal principles which, if some conditions are established, allow common-law spouses to share in the value of a property owned by the other spouse following a separation. The main legal principle applied by Canadian courts to split assets between unmarried spouses is called “unjust enrichment”.

 

In simple terms, “unjust enrichment” may be established when one spouse made a contribution (financial or otherwise) towards the acquisition, maintenance or improvement of an asset (for instance a piece of property) which is owned by one spouse only, resulting in a financial benefit for the other party, to the first party’s detriment.  In the case of Jill’s sister, it would be profoundly unjust if she did not get to share in the value of the property held in her boyfriend’s company name given that they contributed an equal amount of money and efforts towards its purchase and maintenance.

 

This said, proving unjust enrichment can be quite a challenge sometimes, and the cost of making this claim before a court of law can be out of reach for many people.  For that reason, prevention is always better than cure, and many of the challenges associated with unjust enrichment claims can usually be avoided from the outset with careful family planning through cohabitation agreements and other legal contracts. For more information about this subject listen to our program:

 

«Protecting Your Finances: Marriage Contracts and Cohabitation Agreement (“prenupts”)»  http://www.familylawinabox.com/info/study_box.php

Why should I stress with work and let you relax at the spa!

Jack’s work environment has changed considerably lately and he feels lots of pressure to work excessive hours with short timelines.  He is currently experiencing health issues and his doctor has asked him to explore the possibility of taking an early retirement.  His employer has made it clear that hiring temporary help is out of the question.  Jack is seriously considering his doctor’s suggestion but wonders if, by taking an early retirement, his monthly support payments to Jill would be reduced or terminated.  After all, why should he stress with work while Jill spends his money relaxing at the spa!

 

If Jack is retiring for the sole purpose of reducing his support obligations, a court may impute him a higher salary than his retirement income, and calculate his support obligations based on what he used to earn before he retired.  This same principle applies to a payor who intentionally reduces his/her income to avoid paying support.   However, if Jack’s decision to retire is deemed reasonable (because it was prompted by medical reasons or some other « reasonable » cause), then his support payments may be reduced or even terminated.  In that case, the courts would look at many factors, including the following two important principles:

1. The nature of spousal support - Spousal support is an important and necessary means to share the financial impacts of separation which sometimes go well beyond the payor’s retirement.  In deciding whether or not the support obligation should be modified once the payor retires, the court will consider the nature of the support received by the recipient: (i) was the support ordered to compensate a spouse who stayed home throughout the marriage and who, as a result, did not have the opportunity to advance his/her career and earn a reasonable income? or (ii) was the support meant to alleviate a financial need, where a spouse  is unable to meet his/her personal monthly needs?  When support is based on compensation, the courts have often concluded that a spouse is considered to have been fully compensated by the time the payor retires.  However, when the support is based on needs, the courts have at times extended the obligation to pay beyond retirement. 

2. The “double dipping” principle -  The court will consider whether or not the payor’s pension was divided at separation through an “equalization payment” (the payment made between married spouses after a separation ensuring that each spouse ends up with assets of equal value for the period of the marriage).  If the pension was already divided as part of the property settlement agreed to by the spouses at separation, the court will try to avoid « double dipping ».   In other words, the court will avoid dipping again in the same source of funds (i.e. the pension) when granting support, unless the recipient has a significant need that cannot be addressed otherwise. 

 

Spousal support is a very complex area in family law and the payor’s retirement can add to the  complexity.  If retirement is a factor to be considered in your situation,  you  must consult a lawyer to ascertain your options and the impact your retirement may have on your financial situation.   Prior to meeting with your family law professional, take the time to understand the basic concepts of spousal support to use your time with your lawyer more efficiently (Knowledge is power and time is money!).  Visit our website at www.familylawinabox.com and listen to our program on Spousal Support (click here).

Just ask the Taxman and you shall receive money!

Tax filing season is here again. Jack knows that tax deductions and exemptions reduce the amount of income on which he has to pay tax, in contrast to a tax credit which means a dollar-for-dollar reduction in the actual amount of the tax that he has to pay.  Although Jack pays child support for the two children, he cannot deduct the amount from his income.   However, the monthly spousal support he pays Jill is a deductible amount.   Jack knows that he will owe the Taxman money again this year and as a good Canadian citizen he will pay his dues.  However, he is also looking at ways to keep money in his pockets as he would love to buy a pontoon boat which would make his summer vacation with the children so much fun. 

Here is a list of some child tax benefits and credits that might be available to you from the federal and Ontario governments:

1. Child Tax Credits - This federal credit can save you up to $329 for each child under the age of 18.

 

2. Canada Child Tax Benefits - The federal CCTB is calculated for July to June yearly and could bring in to a low-income family with two children up to $555 in additional savings.   If Jill and Jack shared custody of the children (50-50 or 70-30), the CCTB would be divided equally but since both kids reside with Jill (70-30), she is the only parent eligible to claim the CCTB.  In Ontario, depending on your income, you may also be eligible to claim the Child Care Benefit and the Child Care Supplement. 

 

3. GST Credit:  This federal tax-free quarterly payment helps individuals and families with modest income offset all or part of the GST that they pay.  To receive the GST credit you have to apply for it every year.

 

4. Child Fitness and Art Tax Credit – At the federal level, for each child under 16, parents may claim a tax credit of up to $500 registered in a sport like ballet, hockey and soccer and another $500 for artistic and cultural activities, like art or music lessons.  In addition, the Ontario government offers the Children’s Activity Tax Credit where you can claim up to $526 in eligible expenses and get up to $52.60 back for each child under 16.  You can receive up to $105.20 back for a child with a disability who is under 18.

 

5. Universal Child Care Benefit – The federal UCCB provides families with $100 per month for each child under the age of 6 or $1,200 per child, per year.

 

6. Eligible Dependant – If you were a single parent during 2012, you may be able to claim an eligible federal dependent tax credit for one of your children which is equivalent to claiming a dependent spouse.  However, whether or not you receive spousal support you are entitled to this credit.  In the case of Jack, since both kids reside with Jill, he may not claim them.

 

7. Child Care Education – Child care expense can be claimed to the federal government when you hire a babysitter or put your child in a daycare or summer camp to enable you to go to work (or attend school).  If you enrolled your child in a fitness program or summer camp, which operates during the hours you are working, then you must first claim the cost as a childcare expense.

 

8. Medical Expenses – Save your receipts whenever you buy glasses for your children or take them to the dentist as you may claim them at the federal level.  If you have a group health insurance plan at work, then only the portion that is not reimbursed is available for you to claim.

 

9. Child Disability Benefit - The federal and provincial governments provide child disability benefits.  If you believe your child is eligible for this benefit, ask your doctor or occupational therapist to complete a Disability Tax Credit form.

 

10. Tuition Tax Credit  - The federal government offers textbook amount and scholarship and bursary exemptions.  Also, if your child attends a university or a private school, you may claim the applicable tax credits from the Ontario government. 

 

Find out more information about Tax Benefits and Credits by visiting the section in our ToolBox (click here). 

Ask your lawyer for tax receipt and save money!

It is now tax season and Jill has made an appointment with her accountant to finalize her yearly income tax return.  Since Jill needed every penny she received in spousal support to make ends meet, she did not listen to her lawyer’s recommendation to set aside in her savings account 25% of the total income paid by Jack.    She is now extremely stressed and wonders how much money she will need to return to the taxman.  After speaking with her friend Susan, who has gone through a divorce a few years ago, Jill may have found a silver lining that may help her reduce the amount of income tax she owes.  As explained by Susan, all Jill needs to do is ask her lawyer for a tax receipt indicating the total amount of the legal costs she incurred to either:

• establish the amount of support payments (child and/or spousal);

• collect late support payments;

• increase support payments (child and/or spousal);  and/or

 

• defend against a request by the payer (Jack) to reduce established support payments. 

If you are a recipient of child and/or spousal support, you can deduct, in your income tax return, the legal fees incurred to obtain, collect or increase support as well as defend a claim for the reduction of such support.  The legal costs incurred by a recipient to resolve any other issues such as property and parenting cannot be deducted.  Unfortunately, if you are the payer of child and/or spousal support, you cannot claim legal costs incurred to establish, negotiate, or contest the amount of support payments.

 

Your lawyer, if asked, will be responsible to prepare the tax receipt and determine the amount of legal costs you spent in the year to deal with the support issues mentioned above. So if you believe that some of the legal fees you incurred this year qualify as a tax deduction, don’t forget to ask your lawyer for a receipt!

Four crucial rules to help you win your case in Family Court

Jack has just been served with divorce papers (in lawyer’s terms, that’s a court application in which Jill is seeking a divorce, sole custody of the children, support, and many other things).  Stressed, Jack has not wasted one minute to immediately set up a meeting with his lawyer, and together they have discussed a strategy on how to respond to the court case, and how to behave now that the matter is before the court. As Jack will soon find out, there is rarely a quick and easy divorce (unless you have been separated for many years, all issues have been resolved and the only thing asked of the court is to finally grant the divorce).

The road to obtaining a final court order can be very long, time consuming and stressful.  Without your ongoing help and input, your lawyer’s power to obtain what is rightfully yours is significantly diminished.  You are the only person who knows the facts of your story inside out and as such, you are key to your lawyer’s ability to win your case.  If you do not behave properly during the long months it will take to bring the court proceeding to an end, you may be giving your ex-spouse what he/she needs to have the upper hand at the end.

Here are four simple – but ho! so very important – rules to follow to make the court proceeding much easier for your lawyer, yourself and the children:

1.      Keep a journal.  Keep a journal of all the important events taking place post-separation. Your former spouse may say things to you, or act in a manner that will need to be relayed to a judge down the road.  Memory is a faculty that forgets easily especially in times of extreme stress and crisis.  Keeping a detailed written record of these occurrences will serve as a helpful reminder at trial and will also enhance the credibility of your oral testimony since it was written at the time the events actually took place.

2.      Start collecting important documents. Going through a court process means presenting to the court all of the evidence it needs to make a fair decision about each disputed issue in your case.  For that to happen, you must provide the judge with all the relevant evidence supporting your position.  As soon as you separate and even before you separate, start collecting all of the necessary documents such as bank statements (confirming your debts and assets), income information, relevant contracts, business records, emails, letters, medical reports, expense receipts and so on.  Make photocopies of ALL documents that you think may be of importance, you never know when you will need them (we have an excellent program on gathering relevant documentation in our Study Box: Find out more (click here).

3.      Be polite and to the point in email contacts and refrain from using social media to vent your frustration. More especially if children are involved you will likely have to continue to communicate with your former spouse after you separate. If you must communicate with him or her, be polite and to the point. There is nothing more damaging to your case than your former spouse bringing emails or Facebook messages he or she received from you showing how angry, mean and denigrating you have been. Further, if you are seeking custody of your children, you need to show the court that you can effectively communicate and cooperate with your former spouse for the sake of your children.

4.      Be as reasonable as possible and maintain your credibility at all times.  This might be the most important tip you are given here.  It will be a long time before you are actually standing in the witness box telling your story.  In the meanwhile, the judge will only be able to assess your credibility by listening to what your lawyer is saying about you or by reading written materials prepared by your lawyer on your behalf.  Since they cannot really assess credibility (this means being able to tell whether you or your ex is lying) in those situations, they will give a good hard look at your actual actions:  Who has cut the other from the health plan coverage?  Who has maxed out the joint line of credit?  Who is refusing to pay his/her rightful share of the mortgage?  Who is asking for the sky, the moon and the stars as a starting settlement position?  It is said that your past behaviour is often a good indication of your current and future behaviour.  Think of how you want to be perceived and if you don’t like the current story, just change it positively. 

This practical advice may ultimately help you win your case in court.

Leaving the country with the children for March Break? Bring a Consent Letter!

Jill is planning to take a boat cruise with the children this March Break.  She is fed up of the cold winter, she is exhausted with the separation process and feels that a good family vacation would do some good.  Jack, however, does not feel the same way.  Jill has so far refused to cover her fair share of the mortgage and if she does not have money for that, she shouldn’t spend thousands on a luxurious vacation south. Jill doesn’t know what to do.  There is no way she can be in court before the scheduled trip and she is afraid that custom authorities will not let her through with the children if she does not have a consent letter signed by Jack… Or should she try anyway?

 

Traveling with children is always a challenge for parents, whether or not you are still together. If you travel with your children and the other parent is not part of the trip, you will need to get the other parent to sign a consent letter giving you permission to leave the country with the children.   A consent letter is normally required by customs whether you have sole custody or joint custody of your children.  It does not matter whether your custodial rights come from a separation agreement or a court order.  If you do not want any surprises at customs, make sure you pack your passport, the children’s passports and an original consent letter in the prescribed form.  The Department of Foreign Affairs and International Trade Canada provides an example of a consent letter that you may use to create your own letter.  For your convenience, you may access this consent letter directly from our FREE Toolbox (click here). However, it is advisable to have the consent letter notarized by a lawyer (or someone having authority to swear an oath such a doctor, legal assistant, city officials, etc.) to make sure that the validity of the other parent’s signature is not questioned by customs.

 

Most separation agreements provide that the other parent’s consent must be sought in advance, and that such consent cannot be unreasonably withheld.  But what happens if your ex-spouse refuses to sign the consent letter?  Unfortunately, this happens too often – but sometimes for very valid reasons (health or safety issues) but sometimes simply as a means to engage the other parent in conflict.  If your ex-spouse refuses to sign a consent letter for no valid reason, you may have to bring the matter to court to obtain the court’s authorization to travel with the children outside of the country.  If the court finds that your ex-spouse’s refusal was unreasonable, it can order your ex-spouse to pay for all of the legal fees you had to incur to obtain the court order.

 

This is of course an expensive – and extremely stressful – way to begin a vacation with your children.  You may also need to book an extra week of vacation just to recuperate!  To avoid these unfortunate situations and to keep having fun in the sun, make sure that your separation agreement or divorce order includes well-drafted and comprehensive travel provisions setting out clear expectations when traveling abroad with the children.

Spousal support? Are you kidding me??

Jack and Jill both met in university.  During their last two years of university, Jack and Jill moved in together and married a few months after graduation.  The couple were advancing in age and as Jack was making a decent salary that could support the family.  They then decided that Jill would stay home with the children until they were in school. But Jill never truly started her career.  She is working part-time for the local television station, which gives her time to attend to all of the children’s medical and extracurricular needs. Her annual income is not sufficient to be self-supporting. Jill is completely discouraged especially in this time of recession where no one is hiring and all of her friends are being laid-off.   Jill has been told by her lawyer that after 13 years of marriage she would most likely be entitled to spousal support.  Jack disagrees stating that it was Jill’s decision to stay home while he worked his butt off all these years to support the family. 

 
Unlike child support which is calculated according to a specific amount set out in the Federal Child Support Guidelines, spousal support is not set in stone.  If the parties disagree on the amount to be paid, or for how long, the court will be required to make a decision and they have much discretion in setting those parameters.  The following factors, among others, will be considered: 

- The number of years during which the parties have lived together;
- The parties’ respective income;
- Whether the couple still have dependent children;
- The parties' age as well as their physical and mental health;
- The parties’ standard of living during the relationship;
- The parties’ current assets and financial means, including what they are likely to earn in the future;
- The capacity of the recipient to contribute to his/her own support, by working or otherwise, and the amount of time it will take him/her to achieve self-sufficiency;
- The payer’s capacity to pay support; and
- Whether or not the recipient has helped the other spouse to build a career or a business.

 

In general, the duration of spousal support can vary from 0.5 to 1 year of support for each year the couple has cohabited together (note that it is the years of cohabitation that count, not the years of marriage).  In certain circumstances, such as when a couple has cohabited for more than 20 years, the support may be payable for an “indefinite” duration.  This means that the support will continue to be paid until an important change occurs (such as remarriage, retirement, important change in income, etc.).

The right to ask for spousal support is automatic for married couples. With regard to common law spouses, it varies from province to province.  In Ontario, you can only ask for spousal support if you have lived together for 3 years continuously, or if you have a child together and live in a relationship of some permanence. The same factors (as listed above) are relevant for married and common law couples.

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Child Support – Why should I support my wife’s shopping addiction?

Following many discussions, Jack and Jill have finally agreed for Jill to have the children in her primary care (equal to 70% of the time) and Jack, because of his work obligations and difficult schedule, will have them in his care every second weekend including one or two evenings in between (or 30% of the time).  As a result of this arrangement and because he earns a substantially higher income than Jill, Jack’s monthly child support payment will increase.  Jack is concerned about Jill’s love for shopping. While he financially supported it during the marriage, Jack is convinced that a good chunk of the child support he will pay will not be spent on the children. Jack spoke to colleagues at work who used all sorts of strategies to reduce their child support payments. He wonders whether he should have insisted to have the children 50% of the time and whether it was a good idea to accept the long-awaited promotion handed out to him at work, resulting in a higher income… and higher child support payments.

Both of these options are not advisable.  Firstly, a parent should never make parenting decisions based on financial considerations (i.e. with a view of reducing child support).  The court would readily see such a decision for what it is and the parent would lose credibility before the court (or a mediator).  Decision-making authorities assess parenting arrangements based on what is in the best interest of the children, and nothing else.  Rights and obligations regarding children are the same whether you are married or living in a common law relationship.

In the same way, it is a terrible idea for a parent to take steps to quit a well-paying job or to voluntarily reduce his/her annual income to avoid paying child support.  If a court finds that the payer parent has voluntarily reduced his/her income, it may impute an annual income that is greater than the one shown on the income tax return.  The amount of the imputed income will be based on what the court believes the payer parent has the capability to earn.  Following the court decision, that parent will be obligated to pay the higher basic child support amount imputed.  

Many payer parents are concerned with the way basic child support is being used by the recipient parent. While this may be frustrating in some circumstances, the payer parent has no control over the money once it has been paid to the recipient parent. What payers need to understand is that basic child support is not meant to cover strictly expenses that directly benefit the children themselves (such as food and clothing).  It also serves to cover expenses which benefit the children indirectly (although it also has the effect of benefitting the parent as well), such as the mortgage and utilities (for the home in which the children live), the car (which is used to travel them around) and, yes, even the brand new porch…

The payer parent should also keep in mind that in the Federal Child Support Guidelines, basic child support amounts vary for each Canadian provinces and territories and are set based on the amount that an individual parent, with a specific income, is expected to spend to provide for his/her children.   It is simple, the higher the income, the higher the child support amount will be.  Although a payer parent may feel that it would be « cheaper » not to pay child support and to have the children half the time instead, let’s remember that raising children is extremely expensive (many little things, which you may not think about, result in considerable costs when pulled together; haircuts, school lunches and activities, birthday parties, toys, personal care items and, yes, those LuLu Lemon pants…).  In the vast majority of cases, the basic child support amount will not be sufficient to cover that parent’s share of the children’s expenses (both direct and indirect) and the recipient parent will often have to modify his/her current standard of living to support the children financially.

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Who keeps the family pie?

Jill is hosting a girls’ night out at her house.  She starts talking about her divorce with Jack and explains that she’s entitled to “half of everything”. Her friend Sandy who also went through a divorce 5 years ago tells her that that’s not how it works.  “You divide the value, not the assets”, she says.  A discussion on the subject enfolds and Debra, who has lived in a common law relationship with Dave for 5 years wonders if she would be entitled to claim half of everything as well as a common law spouse. Kathy thinks so, since her cousin got half of her ex’ house after a lengthy court battle, but Carolyn is convinced that this is not the case. And everyone is confused.

 

The rules applicable to the division of family property differ significantly depending on your legal status (married or living in a common law relationship), and also on the province in which you live. In fact, each of the Canadian provinces has its own way of dividing family assets when a separation occurs, whether married of in a common law relationship.

 

For married spouses, there are many general principles that apply in all provinces. The most important one is that all provincial laws share a common goal: to divide equally – or at least fairly – between the two ex-spouses the wealth accumulated by the couple during the marriage.  The basic principle underlying the various provincial family property division schemes is that marriage is a financial partnership and it does not matter who paid for the assets, whether a spouse has contributed more than the other, or who is the actual legal owner of any given asset.  In Ontario, the value of all assets acquired by the spouses (jointly or individually) during the marriage will have to be shared between them. In other provinces, the assets themselves get divided. In some provinces, like British Columbia, the court has the discretion to divide a married couple’s family property the way it feels fair and equitable. In most provinces, however, the judge has no discretion and must abide by very strict rules to which there are many exceptions.

 

For common law spouses, the right to share in the other’s property – and the way property is to be shared – when a separation occurs varies from province to province. For instance, in Manitoba and Nova Scotia, common law spouses are given substantial rights to share in the other’s property after separation.  But in other provinces, like in the province of Quebec, common law spouses have absolutely no right at all to claim a fair share of the property acquired by the other spouse during the relationship.  In Quebec, what is yours is yours and what is mine is mine, so to speak.  In other provinces, such as the province of Ontario, common law spouses are presumed to have no right to share in the other’s property, but if very specific circumstances exist, courts will allow common law spouses to share in some or all of their spouse’s assets upon separation.  It is a myth to believe that you are entitled to half of your ex’s assets if you have lived in a common law relationship for more than three years!  When the parties cannot agree (as is often the case) on how to divide their assets, they will have to bring the matter to court and let a judge decide. This process is, as you know, very costly and (so far as common law spouses are concerned) very unpredictable.

 

Because the laws of each province are so drastically different when it comes to splitting this cherished family pie, it is extremely important to understand the regime that applies to your particular situation, in your particular province. Take the time to inform yourself and obtain proper legal advice BEFORE you move in with someone, get married, make a significant financial contribution or investment in joint assets or in assets belonging to your spouse.  Entering into a well written cohabitation agreement (common law spouses) or a marriage contract (marriage spouses) could avoid many heartaches and headaches.  Why wait until a separation occurs to find out that after all these years of emotional and financial investments, you are not even allowed to eat a piece of the pie…

Life insurance to secure child support: There’s no way I’m leaving you this money!

Since the separation, Jack has never stopped paying the monthly premiums for the life insurance policy that he and Jill bought during their marriage.  As there is no chance of reconciliation, Jack wonders whether he should stop paying for Jill’s portion of the monthly premiums.  After all, why isn’t Jill paying for her own premiums? Jack’s friend Dave also told him that he should immediately remove Jill’s name as the beneficiary of his insurance policy and put the children instead.

 

If Jack was well advised, he would do neither.  When parents separate and there are dependent children to care for, it is very important for both parents to maintain life insurance coverage sufficient to provide for the children should the unthinkable happen.  As long as the children remain dependant financially, both parents have a continued obligation to provide financial support –child support – whether they are paying it or receiving it.

In most cases, when a parent dies, the children move in full-time with the surviving parent who is left with having to financially support the children, without any financial contribution from the other parent, unless proper life insurance coverage is in place.  Even if the deceased parent has made a Will and named the minor children as beneficiaries of part or all of his or her estate, the reality is that it often takes months, if not years, for an estate to be administered and the gifts to be distributed.  Furthermore, the Will may prevent the children to have access to the money until they are 18 years of age or even older.  In the meanwhile, the surviving parent struggles and the children suffer unnecessarily. 

 

Here are some additional reasons why separated parents should maintain life insurance coverage naming the other parent as irrevocable beneficiary in trust for the children AT ALL TIMES:

1. If you die and have made no provisions for the other parent to receive money for the support of your children, the surviving parent may very well sue your Estate to obtain that support.  This is bound to delay the administration of your estate considerably, in addition to forcing your executors to engage significant legal fees to defend the action and settle the issue, leaving less money for the children in the end.

 

2. If your child is a minor at the time of your death, he or she will not be entitled to receive any monies directly (from your Will or your insurance policy).  The monies will have to be administered by the person you named as trustee for your children.   If no one was named, the monies will be administered by the Office of the Public Guardian (OPG), a governmental institution who will step in to administer your financial affairs and decide what is best for your children.

 

3. Having your ex-spouse as beneficiary in trust of the life insurance proceeds for your children with specific directions as to how the funds may be used by him or her, and what is to be done with any leftover once the children cease to be dependent, will insure that the monies are used properly for the benefit of your children.

 

4. Your children will have immediate access to funds to maintain their standard of living after you are gone.  They will be able to pursue their activities or schooling, and there will be no gap between the time of your death and the time they have access to the fund they need to pursue their daily life.

 

5. Proper life insurance simplifies the lives of everyone involved if one of the parents dies, and the cost to maintain relatively large amounts of temporary life insurance coverage is quite minimal - depending of course on your age and health condition. 

Making sure your children are provided for in the event of your death is a part of being a responsible and loving parent.