Who said you can keep the car and the investments too?

The Christmas holidays are over and Jill is very happy that things went much better than she anticipated with Jack and the children over the Holidays.  Since their separation in August, Jill has become more financially astute and received as a Christmas gift from her father a book entitled “The Wealthy Barber Returns” (click here to have a peak at that book) which she read while the children were visiting with Jack.  She truly enjoyed this book which explains in a simple and humorous way important financial concepts she needs to understand in order to move on with her life post-separation.  The new year has just begun and Jill feels it is now time for her and Jack to begin discussing how they will divide their family property (assets and debts).   Jack must have read her mind because he sent her an email this morning listing the items he wanted to keep including the new car, the plasma tv, the bedroom suite, and more of the “good stuff”.   That really upset Jill as she felt Jack was only thinking of himself, once again.  Out of exhaustion, she is thinking that it might be better to just let him have his way to finish this off quickly.

When anger is high and feelings are hurt, disputes over the division of household contents often turn into endless emotional battles during the separation process which fuel the litigation and can significantly increase costs to both parties’ detriment.  Remember that what you “feel” is yours may not necessarily be so in the eyes of the law.  Similarly, assuming that you are entitled to «half of everything » just because you were married is not necessarily true either.  To reach a quick settlement and to reduce the stress, some people are tempted to rush through the process of dividing their family property. Others mistakenly believe that dividing everything in half (splitting every asset and every debt in half) is the simplest and fairest way of dividing family property.  Thinking that the settlement was fair they then chose to sign a “kitchen table” agreement (i.e. one drafted by themselves without legal advice) to put the issue behind them.

In reality, dividing your assets and debts, while it does not have to be a complicated, requires a much deeper analysis in most circumstances and should never be accomplished without a deep understanding of the long-term consequences of any given property settlement.  Doing so could result in a settlement that is completely unfair to you and / or which may have very serious financial consequences in the future which you were not aware of.  A separation agreement should never, (and I repeat) never be signed unless you have spent at least one hour with a family lawyer who can explain to you what you are fully entitled to by the law, what you may be leaving on the table and what the long-term financial implications of your decisions will be. Experience has shown that settlements which seemed simple and fair at first glance do not necessarily stand the test of time and you would not want to be eating cat food just because of hasty decisions you made to settle your separation quickly.