Should you try to make Christmas perfect?

Last year was the first Christmas after the separation.  Although the holidays went fairly well given the circumstances, Jill is feeling the pressure of making Christmas perfect.  The children are asking for an IPOD, and IPAD, and IPHONE, an XBOX just to name a few big ticket items on their wish list. Jill earns a lot less money than Jack and cannot afford the luxurious gifts he buys the children.   She also feels guilty that she will not spend Christmas morning with the kids and thinking of the loneliness is just overwhelming.   She knows that she has to stick to the budget and that money does not buy love. However, when it comes to the children Jill usually overspends.  

 

In preparation for Christmas Jill made a list of 5 goals she will try to respect during this holiday season:

 

1.  Make a list of gifts. Set a budget and stick to it.  Shop early – avoid last minute temptations and overspending. 

 

2.  Talk to the children and Jack about Christmas and New Year arrangements well in advance – good planning and realistic expectations can prevent frustrations and disappointment.

 

3.  Remain flexible during the holidays - avoid disagreements, dramatic people and uncomfortable conversations after all “it’s the season to be jolly”.

 

4.  Enjoy myself – spend quality time laughing with family and friends, the support of loved ones can provide strength to move past a difficult situation.

 

5.  Remain positive – Choosing to learn from this hurtful life experience can help you grow into a stronger, wiser person.

 

I work for my-self and don’t earn much income!

Jack is self-employed as a human resource consultant for various companies and organizations in the Ottawa area, a business he started to operate when he was laid off from his long-time position with the federal government. As a self-employed business owner, Jack is able to enjoy freedom and many tax benefits that are not available to “regular” employees.  However,  being self-employed also means that he must bear the risks associated with the ups and downs of market demands and fluctuating annual income that “regular” employees do not have to assume. That is what he responded to Jill when her lawyer had the nerves to suggest that his income was actually higher than the amount he declared in his annual income tax return.

Jill’s lawyer had no intention to insult Jack, or to insinuate that he was defrauding Canada Revenue Agency.   For the purpose of determining the annual income required to calculate both child and spousal support, the court is not limited to the revenue declared by  a tax payor in his or her income tax return.   In fact, the tax and other financial benefits flowing from being self-employed, being the sole owner of your own company or living in a country with much lower tax rates (to name only a few) can and will be taken into consideration and will often result in the court attributing a higher income than what is reported on line 150 of the income tax return.  This is because the child and spousal support guidelines (those tables, charts and software that determine how much support is payable) are based on income earned by “regular” employees who are subject to source deductions and less flexible taxation rules, and who must pay for personal expenses with after-tax money.  This is not the case for self-employed people who usually also  enjoy the following (non-exhaustive) benefits;

• paying for personal expenses (such as car expenses, cell phones, meals and entertainment, travel, etc.) through their businesses, thus allowing them to pay with “before-tax money”;
• leaving important sums of money in their company, for reinvestment or future use; 
• investing through their company with “before-tax money”; and
• receiving income as dividends, which brings about a lower taxation rate.

As a result, when assessing a self-employed payor’s income judges and lawyers must look beyond the income tax return to avoid comparing  apples (“regular” employee payors’ income) with oranges (self-employed payors’ income).