Last year was the first Christmas after the separation. Although the holidays went fairly well given the circumstances, Jill is feeling the pressure of making Christmas perfect. The children are asking for an IPOD, and IPAD, and IPHONE, an XBOX just to name a few big ticket items on their wish list. Jill earns a lot less money than Jack and cannot afford the luxurious gifts he buys the children. She also feels guilty that she will not spend Christmas morning with the kids and thinking of the loneliness is just overwhelming. She knows that she has to stick to the budget and that money does not buy love. However, when it comes to the children Jill usually overspends.
In preparation for Christmas Jill made a list of 5 goals she will try to respect during this holiday season:
1. Make a list of gifts. Set a budget and stick to it. Shop early – avoid last minute temptations and overspending.
2. Talk to the children and Jack about Christmas and New Year arrangements well in advance – good planning and realistic expectations can prevent frustrations and disappointment.
3. Remain flexible during the holidays - avoid disagreements, dramatic people and uncomfortable conversations after all “it’s the season to be jolly”.
4. Enjoy myself – spend quality time laughing with family and friends, the support of loved ones can provide strength to move past a difficult situation.
5. Remain positive – Choosing to learn from this hurtful life experience can help you grow into a stronger, wiser person.
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