What? You moved away with the children!

Jill and Jack have been arguing for quite a while now.  For Easter, Jack took the children on holidays to his family in Toronto.  On Easter Monday, Jack sent Jill a text message saying the children would not be returning home that night as he had decided to permanently move to Toronto with the children in order to be closer to his immediate family.  Jill is in a state of shock and her first instinct is to call the police and charge him with kidnapping! All Jill wants is to get the children safely home as quickly as possible. Does Jack have the right to move out of town without telling her?

 

While Jack may certainly move, he cannot do so with the children and most importantly without speaking with Jill who has legal options available to her.  The very first thing that Jill should do is to IMMEDIATELY speak with a family lawyer as in custody matters of this kind, acting with all speed is absolutely crucial.  Every hour and every day that Jill delays in taking court action works against her chances of getting back the children quickly.

 

Under no circumstances should Jill consent to Jack’s removal of the children or sign any agreement that deals with custody and access matters until she and her lawyer have reviewed it.  Similarly, nor should Jill say or write anything to Jack that could be interpreted as agreeing with his removal of the children from the family home.  Jill will also be required to start an urgent court proceeding against Jack for the children's return. Custody proceedings are very fact-specific and to save time and legal fees, Jill will need to provide her lawyer with the following information:

 

1. the family’s background (names of the parties and their children, dates of birth, length of relationship, employment, income, etc.);

 

2. Short timeline of the main events leading up to Jack's removal of the children;

 

3. List of family members, daycare providers and friends who can help her care for the children if the court orders their return to the family home;

 

4. why it would be in the children’s best interest to be in your care until the matter is sorted out, and;

 

5. what access, if any, do you propose the other parent to have.

 

The reason for the parent's moving is irrelevant to the court unless it helps to determine the parent's ability to provide for the children's needs. When making parenting decisions, the courts sole concern is the child’s best interest – what are the child's needs and the ability of each parent to satisfy those needs. Of course, the relationship that the child has with each parent will also be examined. Courts do not like to introduce instability into the children’s lives, nor do they want children to remain in environments that leave them vulnerable to emotional and physical harm. Thus, the trend in the Ontario courts has been to disallow the removal of the children from their family home if there is no compelling reason to show that such a move is in their best interests. In Jack’s case, for instance, the court could order for example that he return the children to Jill or have the police apprehend him and return the children to Jill.

 

Moving away with the children without proper discussion and agreement between both parents will not only disrupt the children’s lives, it will create lots of fear and unnecessary anxiety. Speaking to a family law professional and with the other parent before making such a move is a must!