An offer to settle? Is my lawyer losing trust in my case?

The trial in Jill and Jack’s family matter is approaching.  They have not yet been able to settle their disputes over financial matters and the judge overseeing their court case has advised them that he was “setting this matter down to trial”. Family judges often do that to force the parties to be reasonable and be pro-active about settling their affairs. As a result, Jack’s lawyer has recommended that an offer to settle be made to Jill, emphasizing the fact that the offer is a significant compromise on Jack’s part. In other words, Jack’s lawyer is proposing to settle financial matters for an amount significantly less than what Jacks believes he is entitled to.  Jack wonders why he would do that and is beginning to think that his lawyer may not be advising him properly.

 

In fact, this is really good advice that Jack is getting. The role of offers to settle in a family court proceeding must not be understated, as they can have a significant impact on the dollars you might be able to recoup at the end of the day.  If accepted by your ex-spouse, an offer to settle will end your court case definitely.  This means, among other things:

• No more legal fees to pay (thousands and thousands of dollars of savings);
• You will not have to go to trial (no need to spend an entire week – or more – under stress, telling a perfect stranger about your most private affairs with your ex-spouse);
• No more stress over the legal proceedings (sleep at last); and
• The right for you and your children to live in peace, and finish grieving the end of your relationship. 

If your offer is not accepted by your ex-spouse, then making a « low ball » offer to settle will have the effect of protecting yourself against the high costs of divorce litigation. At the end of a full-blown trial, the judge will have the obligation to consider costs spent by each party in the court proceeding, and to award costs in favour of one party against the other.  This means that the judge will have the right to order one party (usually the party who “lost”) to pay to the other party (the “successful” party) an amount to compensate him or her for the legal fees paid throughout the proceeding.  The judge will look at the offer to settle that was presented before trial. If some of the terms of the offer were more beneficial to the other party then what was ultimately offered by the judge, the court is directed by law to make a cost order against the party who failed to accept this most beneficial offer for the time wasted going to trial. As a result, a “low ball” offer to settle can become very beneficial in the end. 

 

Everything in family court is about being reasonable.  While you may think that you have a 100% chance of success in the position that you are advancing in court, history has shown that, in every single case, at least one of the parties end up disappointed.  Making every possible effort to settle your family issues out of court could mean accepting a bit less than what you think you are entitled to. Most importantly, it could mean finding peace of mind. Often, settlement is a question of perception:  is your glass half-empty or half-full?