Remarriage and Spousal Support

Jill has met a new man.  He has never been married and asked her the other day if she would ever consider marriage again.  Jill always thought that once was enough but this man, Gary, is very kind, attentive to her needs and he is very respectful of the children.  He dreams of building a family life with Jill and believes that marriage would be the ultimate commitment. Jill is really not sure about this ‘marriage commitment thing’. She is also afraid that it may affect the monthly spousal support she is getting from Jack and that she has fought so hard to obtain… And then what happens if it does not work out with Gary?

If Jill remarries, she will be faced with three possible scenarios.  Her spousal support may be (1) terminated (2) reduced or (3) continue as is.  The main issue that will be considered by a court will be whether Jill’s remarriage is considered a “material change in circumstances”.  In order to change the spousal support terms of an agreement that you signed, you must show that something important changed in the parties’ circumstances and that if such changed circumstances had been present when the agreement was negotiated, it would have led to a different amount being paid.  So, if Jill’s remarriage was a clear possibility when she signed her agreement with Jack, and the agreement does not state that her remarriage would be “a material change in circumstances”, it is likely that Jill’s remarriage would have no impact on Jack’s future support obligations.

If Jill’s remarriage was not likely to occur in a foreseeable future when the parties signed their separation agreement, it is possible that her remarriage will be considered a “material change in circumstances” allowing Jack to ask that his support obligations be reviewed in light of Jill’s new family circumstances (and increase family income). This would not of course guarantee an automatic change, as Jill’s entitlement to support (particularly if it was being paid to her to compensate her for the economic disadvantages suffered during her marriage to Jack) might not change even if she is remarried.

Sometimes, a separation agreement specifically provides that spousal support will end if the recipient remarries.  In that case, the outcome would be quite clear and the spousal support would end the day Jill says “I do” for a second time. 

Spousal support is complex.  When dealing with this issue, courts (and lawyers and mediators) will have the following four objectives in mind: 

 

1) recognize any economic advantages or disadvantages to the spouses arising from the marriage or its breakdown; 

 

2) apportion between the spouses any financial consequences arising from the care of any child of the marriage over and above any obligation for the support of any child of the marriage;

3) relieve any economic hardship of the spouses arising from the breakdown of the marriage; and

4) in so far as practicable, promote the economic self-sufficiency of each spouse within a reasonable period of time.

 

If you are contemplating remarriage, spousal support is only one of the issues that you should  consider carefully with your legal advisor. Understanding how to protect your property in a second marriage (by entering into a marriage contract) is also key to happy endings. Visit our website at www.familylawinabox.com and listen to our program on Division of Family Property for Married Spouses (click here).

Watch What You Write on Your Wall…

Jill is very upset with Jack and vented her frustrations on Facebook.  Her friends “liked” her comments.  Unfortunately, Jill forgot that one of her friends is also friends with Jack’s teenage niece who has her phone glued to her hip and who instantaneously saw the comment Jill made about her uncle.  Of course, she immediately shared it with her mother, Jack’s sister.  Even if Jill wanted to erase her comment, it is too late and Jack has already seen it. 

Social networking services such as Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter have not only become a “marriage killer” – you would be surprise to learn how many people discovered that their spouse was cheating through these means -  they also have the potential of becoming a “best case” killer in court or in a divorce settlement process.  When a separation gets ugly, spouses may be tempted to use social media as a channel to vent their anger, bash their ex-spouse’s actions and get support from common friends and family members in what they believe to be their “just cause”.   

 
If you are using social media to show off your new “hot” girlfriend to your buddies, or to gain support from your friends, rest assured that this evidence is going to find its way into the court room – or in your ex-spouse’s lawyer’s hands–quicker than you can think.  Yes, this type of evidence can be used against you in court and in other settlement processes.  Imagine, with your own actions and your own words you may give your ex-spouse the evidence he or she needs to discredit you and prove his or her point against you.  Your children could find your disparaging comments in future years.    It is hard for parents to argue that they have their children’s best interest at heart – and thus should be granted sole custody of them – when evidence proves that they have spent the past two months destroying the other parents’ reputation in social media.   Even worst, your children can be scared emotionally in the process, especially if your comments are available for the whole world to read. 

Finally, it is not enough to try to limit the damage by shutting down your existing account, locking down your privacy settings or “untagging” your images and pictures.  The damage may be impossible to control down the road as social media tends to leave permanent traces.  Remember that social networking services were created to help people stay in touch. Therefore, if one day you have the urge or the need to vent about your ex or the events related to your separation, just pick up the phone and talk to someone before writing it - permanently - on  your wall.