He should pay for my lawyer’s fees!

Jill is really frustrated.  Jack has failed to provide the financial documentation she needs to determine his “true” income for support purposes.  As a result, Jill’s lawyer has recommended that she obtain a court order forcing Jack to provide the information.  Since it is Jack who is refusing to comply, Jill feels that he should be responsible to pay for all the legal fees associated with this court proceeding. However, Jill’s lawyer made it clear that although she will make the request, the final decision is within the judge’s entire discretion.  The judge may, or may not, make an “award of costs” forcing Jack to pay some or even (more rarely) all of Jill’s legal fees. 

 

The number one frustration encountered by a client in a separation process is when he/she is obligated to pay an important amount of legal fees to start a court proceeding just to compel an ex-spouse to do things that he/she should have been doing readily and willingly (i.e., providing financial disclosure, paying child support, paying their share of joint debts, signing a consent to travel abroad with the children, etc.). In Ontario, the court process is designed to promote settlement discussions between the spouses.   Thus, to move the matter towards settlement, the spouses have the obligation to participate in various types of conferences (i.e., case conference, settlement conference, and trial management conference) before they can proceed to adjudication processes (processes where evidence is presented to the judge and the judge imposes a decision on the parties).  While a conference is a less costly settlement oriented process than an adjudication process, judges do not usually award costs in the context of those conferences, unless it is very clear that one party has abused the process. 

 

As a result, it is important to understand that before engaging into a court proceeding (conference or adjudication), you must be able to pay for all the legal fees stemming from the process as you may, in the end, only be able to recover a slim portion from your ex. Court should always be the last alternative in a separation process because the cost of the process may very well exceed the benefit that you gain in the end.

Love is sometimes blind… Marriage and immigration

Jack’s brother, Romeo, called him last night in a crisis.  His new wife Julia, whom he met in Cuba two years ago and whom he married the week after she arrived in Canada two months ago, stormed out of their home last night wanting a separation.  Romeo explained that their marriage was rocky from day one.  It would appear that, after the marriage, Julia became a completely different person than the sweet, kind and amusing woman he had dated long distance for the past two years.  Romeo believed that, with time, they would be able to work things out.  However, he has since found out that Julia never loved him and manipulated him into marriage solely to immigrate to Canada. Having sponsored Julia to become a Canadian resident, Romeo now faces years of financial responsibility towards her even after a divorce.

Romeo’s story is unfortunately similar to that of many other Canadians, and the options available in those situations (until recently) were non-existent.  At the moment, when someone sponsors a non-Canadian to become a Canadian resident, that person must give financial support to their immigrating spouse for three years, even if the marriage or relationship fails. If the immigrating spouse uses social assistance to meet his or her basic needs, the Canadian spouse will have to repay the money to the government, as sponsorship is a legal contract with the Government of Canada. You must meet its terms. It does not matter whether or not a judge would deny the immigrating spouse financial assistance pursuant to Canadian family law principles or whether the parties had signed a marriage contract confirming that no spousal support would be payable in case of separation or divorce.  If the immigrating spouse requires financial assistance to meet his or her needs, the Canadian spouse is 100% responsible, not Canadian taxpayers. Until very recently, there was nothing a “manipulated” spouse could do in this unfortunate situation.

However, in October 2012, the Canadian immigration laws have changed.  In an ongoing effort to deter people from using marriages of convenience to enter into Canada, the Canadian immigration authorities introduced a new regulation that requires certain sponsored spouses to live in a legitimate relationship with their sponsor for at least two years from the day on which they receive their permanent resident status in Canada.  If the sponsored spouse leaves prior to the two year requirement, its status may be revoked.  Canadian authorities can also lay criminal charges against the sponsored spouse.

Based on this new regulation, Romeo will not have to prove that Julia manipulated and married him for the sole purpose of immigrating to Canada, given that she left prior to the two year requirement.  Her status as a permanent resident will be revoked and Romeo’s obligation to financially support her will end since she will have to return to Cuba.  If you are a Canadian citizen or permanent resident and have met someone from another country on the Internet or while travelling, think carefully before marrying them and sponsoring them to come to Canada. Otherwise, blind love could completely turn your world around…

Should you try to make Christmas perfect?

Last year was the first Christmas after the separation.  Although the holidays went fairly well given the circumstances, Jill is feeling the pressure of making Christmas perfect.  The children are asking for an IPOD, and IPAD, and IPHONE, an XBOX just to name a few big ticket items on their wish list. Jill earns a lot less money than Jack and cannot afford the luxurious gifts he buys the children.   She also feels guilty that she will not spend Christmas morning with the kids and thinking of the loneliness is just overwhelming.   She knows that she has to stick to the budget and that money does not buy love. However, when it comes to the children Jill usually overspends.  

 

In preparation for Christmas Jill made a list of 5 goals she will try to respect during this holiday season:

 

1.  Make a list of gifts. Set a budget and stick to it.  Shop early – avoid last minute temptations and overspending. 

 

2.  Talk to the children and Jack about Christmas and New Year arrangements well in advance – good planning and realistic expectations can prevent frustrations and disappointment.

 

3.  Remain flexible during the holidays - avoid disagreements, dramatic people and uncomfortable conversations after all “it’s the season to be jolly”.

 

4.  Enjoy myself – spend quality time laughing with family and friends, the support of loved ones can provide strength to move past a difficult situation.

 

5.  Remain positive – Choosing to learn from this hurtful life experience can help you grow into a stronger, wiser person.

 

I work for my-self and don’t earn much income!

Jack is self-employed as a human resource consultant for various companies and organizations in the Ottawa area, a business he started to operate when he was laid off from his long-time position with the federal government. As a self-employed business owner, Jack is able to enjoy freedom and many tax benefits that are not available to “regular” employees.  However,  being self-employed also means that he must bear the risks associated with the ups and downs of market demands and fluctuating annual income that “regular” employees do not have to assume. That is what he responded to Jill when her lawyer had the nerves to suggest that his income was actually higher than the amount he declared in his annual income tax return.

Jill’s lawyer had no intention to insult Jack, or to insinuate that he was defrauding Canada Revenue Agency.   For the purpose of determining the annual income required to calculate both child and spousal support, the court is not limited to the revenue declared by  a tax payor in his or her income tax return.   In fact, the tax and other financial benefits flowing from being self-employed, being the sole owner of your own company or living in a country with much lower tax rates (to name only a few) can and will be taken into consideration and will often result in the court attributing a higher income than what is reported on line 150 of the income tax return.  This is because the child and spousal support guidelines (those tables, charts and software that determine how much support is payable) are based on income earned by “regular” employees who are subject to source deductions and less flexible taxation rules, and who must pay for personal expenses with after-tax money.  This is not the case for self-employed people who usually also  enjoy the following (non-exhaustive) benefits;

• paying for personal expenses (such as car expenses, cell phones, meals and entertainment, travel, etc.) through their businesses, thus allowing them to pay with “before-tax money”;
• leaving important sums of money in their company, for reinvestment or future use; 
• investing through their company with “before-tax money”; and
• receiving income as dividends, which brings about a lower taxation rate.

As a result, when assessing a self-employed payor’s income judges and lawyers must look beyond the income tax return to avoid comparing  apples (“regular” employee payors’ income) with oranges (self-employed payors’ income). 

An offer to settle? Is my lawyer losing trust in my case?

The trial in Jill and Jack’s family matter is approaching.  They have not yet been able to settle their disputes over financial matters and the judge overseeing their court case has advised them that he was “setting this matter down to trial”. Family judges often do that to force the parties to be reasonable and be pro-active about settling their affairs. As a result, Jack’s lawyer has recommended that an offer to settle be made to Jill, emphasizing the fact that the offer is a significant compromise on Jack’s part. In other words, Jack’s lawyer is proposing to settle financial matters for an amount significantly less than what Jacks believes he is entitled to.  Jack wonders why he would do that and is beginning to think that his lawyer may not be advising him properly.

 

In fact, this is really good advice that Jack is getting. The role of offers to settle in a family court proceeding must not be understated, as they can have a significant impact on the dollars you might be able to recoup at the end of the day.  If accepted by your ex-spouse, an offer to settle will end your court case definitely.  This means, among other things:

• No more legal fees to pay (thousands and thousands of dollars of savings);
• You will not have to go to trial (no need to spend an entire week – or more – under stress, telling a perfect stranger about your most private affairs with your ex-spouse);
• No more stress over the legal proceedings (sleep at last); and
• The right for you and your children to live in peace, and finish grieving the end of your relationship. 

If your offer is not accepted by your ex-spouse, then making a « low ball » offer to settle will have the effect of protecting yourself against the high costs of divorce litigation. At the end of a full-blown trial, the judge will have the obligation to consider costs spent by each party in the court proceeding, and to award costs in favour of one party against the other.  This means that the judge will have the right to order one party (usually the party who “lost”) to pay to the other party (the “successful” party) an amount to compensate him or her for the legal fees paid throughout the proceeding.  The judge will look at the offer to settle that was presented before trial. If some of the terms of the offer were more beneficial to the other party then what was ultimately offered by the judge, the court is directed by law to make a cost order against the party who failed to accept this most beneficial offer for the time wasted going to trial. As a result, a “low ball” offer to settle can become very beneficial in the end. 

 

Everything in family court is about being reasonable.  While you may think that you have a 100% chance of success in the position that you are advancing in court, history has shown that, in every single case, at least one of the parties end up disappointed.  Making every possible effort to settle your family issues out of court could mean accepting a bit less than what you think you are entitled to. Most importantly, it could mean finding peace of mind. Often, settlement is a question of perception:  is your glass half-empty or half-full?

 

I need closure!

Jill wants to have the home transferred to her name.  She knows that it is over with Jack and she’s chomping at the bit to build a new life.  She feels that Jack is purposely dragging out the separation process in an attempt to wear her down and get a sweeter financial settlement.  Her biggest fear is to settle too quickly and end up living from pay check to pay check.  

Here are 3 common mistakes people make when negotiating a settlement:

1. Insist on keeping the home you worked hard for or that you like so much
Often, the matrimonial home can be more of a liability than an asset especially when you are living on a single income.  It is important to make a list of all the monthly expenses before making this big decision.  It is also recommended to add 25% to your current monthly budget because with time, you will need extra money to get the roof repaired, a new fridge and stove, a lawn mower, new furnace etc.   In the end, it may make more financial sense to sell the home and move into a smaller, more affordable property such as a condo, an apartment, or a smaller bungalow where the maintenance is taken care of or less costly.  Emotionally, it may also make sense to start fresh in a home more suited to your family’s current needs.

 

2. Get bogged down in the “I want” war
Too many separated spouses fight over possessions they want such as furniture, antiques, and knickknacks while losing the big picture in the process.  As a result, lots of time and money are wasted in petty battles.  Fighting over minor possessions just makes negotiations on the important issues, like the home, parenting issues and support (child and spousal), more difficult and lengthy.  It is important for you to become a savvy negotiator.  Make a list of the things that you absolutely want.  Also include in the list some of the items you are willing to let go.  Then “compromise” on the non-essentials and make it look like a win-win situation!

 

3. Be overly anxious to get closure or be afraid to be ridiculed by your ex
Too many people rush into settlement because they are seeking closure.  Others are afraid to be ridiculed by their ex and do not stand up their ground.  Sometimes the desire for closure or the refusal to speak up means the difference between a comfortable life and a marginal one.  Get involved, understand how the law works, ask questions and make sound decisions.  Remember that a piece of paper will not give you closure. Only time and working on yourself can do that. 

The children are finally 18, can I stop paying child support?

Jack’s brother, Sam, has twin daughters (Melany and Stephany) who will soon be 18 years old and who continue to live primarily with their mother since the separation. The adult girls have just graduated from high school.     Melany has been working in retail since she is 16 years old and in light of the career opportunities offered by her company she has decided for the time being to work full time in that industry and not pursue her post-secondary studies.    As for Stephany, she aspires to become a doctor and has been accepted to university.  Following the completion of her bachelor degree in sciences, she hopes to enter medical school to pursue her dream.    For the next three years, both girls intend to continue living with their mother   Sam wonders whether he still has an obligation to pay child support after the girls turn 18.

Child support does not necessarily end when a child turns 18.  Normally, child support will continue to be paid for an adult child if he/she enrolls into  a post-secondary study program or if the child is unable to support himself/herself as a result of a disability or illness.  When a child pursues a college or university education the child support obligation will usually end when the child receives his/her first post-secondary degree, although there are exceptions.

To the extent that the obligation to continue to pay child support exists, the monthly amount of support must be determined. This is where things get a bit more complicated.  Normally, if a child lives at home with one parent while pursuing his/her studies, the basic child support amount that was payable prior to the child turning 18 will likely continue to be payable after that date (this amount is set by the Federal Child Support Guidelines, based on the payor’s income). This makes sense since the “custodial” parent will have to continue to maintain a home for the child and to assume his/her day-to-day expenses (i.e., transportation, food, clothing).    However, if the child movesaway from home to attend school (normally 8 months out of 12), then the way child support is calculated would be different as we would have to take into consideration the child’s needs outside of the parent’s home, the reduced costs to the recipient parent when the child is living away from home and the child’s own ability to contribute to his or her living and school expenses.

In addition to paying the basic child support amount, the paying parent (such as Sam) would also have an obligation to contribute his/her share of the child’s extraordinary expenses.  These would include a portion of the child’s tuition fees, books and other school expenses, to the extent that the child is unable to cover all of those expenses with student loans, grants or their own income.

 

Although it may appear that child support obligations will never end, just remember that you are a parent for life.  In the end, giving your child a chance at living a successful and financially independent life (hopefully sooner rather than later…) is what you are here for in the first place, isn’t it?